Good morning and happy Friday. Weight is down 2.6 pounds from last week, which is a miracle. Still no intentional exercise beyond walking the dog.
As I am packing up and getting ready to sell this house, it feels like a right time to reflect on being intentional in creating the next stage of my life. The goal is for the next house to be the last house, so beyond some obvious choices (one story & other aging in place choices), things like size of house matters as well.
I am aggressively down sizing my furniture to minimize what gets moved & stored. While I'm keeping important family items, things I've collected and like but aren't emotionally attached to are going to go. The house we've looked at is roughly the same size as this one, but I'm wondering if we would be comfortable in a smaller one. Given that I work at home, I do need an office space, so maybe not. But size affects price, and price matters! Thankfully that isn't a decision we need to make right away.
My ideal is that I have a new house that is decluttered, which will translate to less maintenance. The reason is that I want to be able to do more traveling - which requires money, so mortgage size matters!
The other reality I am dealing with is my husband's health. He has gained a fair bit of weight since his knee replacement surgery (much more sedentary role plus stress plus depression) and his weight definitely affects his activity level. One reason I went to Alaska alone was the simple fact that he would not have been able to do the things I wanted to to. I'm not trying to throw stones - my fitness affected what I was able to do in Alaska!
I don't want to sound mean, I love my husband. But work demands, raising a child, etc. has meant certain dreams of mine have been deferred. I'm ready to stop deferring my dreams. If that means I do trips with women's groups or other organized travel groups or other family members and T stays home - well, that makes me sad. I'd love for him to have adventures with me, but I can't control the choices he makes around his health. We've had that discussion.
I don't know what that looks like. I need to think through that. I do know I need to set myself up for success - and that means creating a lifestyle that prioritizes physical activity and minimizes the constant sorting/ cleaning/ organizing that takes up a lot of my time now.
Have a great weekend!
3 comments:
This sounds like a positive post. I am glad to read that! Sad for T but understandable considering the circumstances. You cannot help him if he is not ready as you know. Good for you on looking forwards to living life even if it means leaving him home. Maybe he will start to turn around when he sees you having fun and he misses you.
Knee issues suck but it's really hard to watch someone you love self-destruct with unhealthy choices. There's little you can do other than let them know you'll be there to cheer them on when they are ready to make the changes.
It's so hard not to get sucked into the bad choices, you should be very proud of yourself for maintaining your boundaries around your healthy choices!
Congrats on the weight loss. A new home sounds exciting. We are having some work done on our home. We bought 16 years ago and thought we would have it completed much sooner but life happens. I am not sure if I would stay here if my husband was no longer here. He takes care of all the outside stuff. My dream is to travel too. I'm not sure if he is as excited as I am. Currently I still work. I still go to the office 5 days a week. To work from home would be up my alley. I have been reflecting quite a bit too. I am close to retirement & want to make the last quarter blissful. I hope you can get T on board with you. Especially on health. My husband will walk with me & is on board when I do get serious about my diet. It helps.
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